“A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his relatives and his own family.” Mark 6:4
This is Melody-Rose, and I am writing in the hope that when you recognize the following situation, you, too, can become an effective health prophet for your family, friends, and co-workers. If you are familiar with this story and want to be a powerful influence on the health of the people you care about, know that there is hope and read on!
As we promised when we introduced our new format in the post, “My Husband’s Cholesterol is Too High! What Can I Do?”, we are going to give you a simple answer to your simple question:
I just bought some ReMag because I have muscle cramps at night and heard from a friend that it helped. I want my husband to use it, too, for his post-workout cramps. He’s refusing. What can I do to get him to use ReMag with me?
Answer: Get results. Try the product, and when you get good results, it’s more likely that your husband will ask you what you did to get rid of your leg cramps. Then, you can share your ReMag experience. Remember, results trump information.
If you want to learn from my health prophet story (which I am sharing with our Intermediate and Advanced readers), please feel free to continue reading.
My Health Prophet Story
As some of you may be aware, I connected with Dr. Dean, Ginney, and the Completement Formulas in 2012 when I had nearly given up on ever having cardiovascular health again. I had been under the care of a traditional cardiologist, taken the medication he prescribed, and followed through with his advice. My AFib was getting worse all the time, to the point where I was weak from poor circulation. I ended up flat on my back in bed.
Then, I phoned into Dr. Dean’s Monday Night Internet Radio Show, started using ReMag and added the other Completement Formulas. For the most part, unless something I experience triggers temporary challenges, my AFib is just part of my history. In fact, my cardiologist is working with me to reduce or eliminate the medications I was taking, because my heart is so much healthier.
Coincidentally, a close family member had a heart attack around the same time and had a stent put in. He was prescribed a heart healthy diet, medications, and exercise. Since his heart health didn’t seem to improve, as shown by him requiring additional stents, he believes his cardiologist’s opinion that his problem is genetic. To me, when someone makes a genetic pronouncement over you, and they can’t fix your genes, they are “dooming” you to a continuing health problem that has no solution.
So, I sent him ReMag to try and links to free PDFs of Dr. Dean’s eBooks, ReMag – Invisible Minerals Part I and Atrial Fibrillation: Remineralize Your Heart. He refused to try ReMag; although he did read Dr. Dean’s books and all of the research she mentioned, which he chose to ignore. I’ve tried revisiting my suggestion on several occasions, and he gets angry and shuts down the conversation with his doctor’s opinion that my cousin will have another heart attack and die if he tries alternatives. This doesn’t make any sense, or does it?
Why did my cousin refuse to listen to me? Why did he get angry?
Challenging the Status Quo
People familiar with you know your stars and your scars. My cousin and I are close to the same age. Our mothers were very close, and everyone in the family knew about everyone’s victories and defeats. When I was quite young, my parents told everyone in the family, “Melody’s an absent-minded professor. Someone is going to need to take care of her for the rest of her life.”
This pronouncement has become the family opinion of who I am, even though I haven’t lived near the family for over 30 years and take care of myself all the time (since I am single). In fact, I sent my cousin a photo of the beautiful garden in the front of my house last year, and he was shocked that I lived in such a nice place and that only my roommate and I took care of the property.
People are conditioned by experts. Since traditional medicine made so many discoveries and improvements since the end of WWII, many view their doctors as gods. Patients believe their doctors “know everything,” and that any advice they give is based on research and facts. So, consumers get conditioned to listen to everything their doctors say as if it is gospel. They will allow a doctor to make a pronouncement/diagnosis over them, that allows their body very little wiggle room to heal. They will take medications, even when they learn that the side effects are worse than the presenting issue.
In the book, The Compassionate Mind Approach to Managing Your Anger, Russell Kolts says:
And we naturally experience anger when we are faced with having our progress blocked, when we are challenged or perceive we are being attacked. When these experiences are paired with people, places, and situations, our brains link them together. When this happens, those previously neutral people, places, and situations can acquire the power to provoke reactions in us — be it arousal, anxiety, or anger. This process is called, “Classic Conditioning,” and when it involves our threat system, it is a very efficient and powerful form of learning.
So, what I found out from this situation is that directly challenging someone’s conditioning that says, “You will die if you don’t listen to your doctor,” is not a good strategy to help, especially if the person thinks you are 12 years old, absent-minded, and can’t take care of yourself.
Strategies that Work
Get Curious. Instead of accepting everything you are being told about your health (whether by your doctor or an internet expert, even Dr. Dean), keep asking questions and doing your research. For example:
- When your doctor prescribes a medication, don’t take/fill the prescription right away. Ask your doctor if it’s ok to wait a few days to do some research and tell him/her that you’ll phone the office on a specific day with your decision or questions. Then, do your own research. You can go to http://wikipedia.com, search for the medication you are taking, and read the information there (formula, description, side effects, contraindications, interferences, lawsuits, etc.). Here’s an example of what a drug page looks like on Wikipedia:
Here’s the table of contents for the page on diazepam:
Then, if you have questions about the medication, its side effects, or alternatives, you can ask your doctor. Any ethical doctor will welcome your participation in your treatment plan.
- Ask your doctor what the alternatives are. “Is there an alternative treatment plan?” “Is there any lifestyle or dietary changes that would improve my health?” “Are there supplements that will help me build health in this circumstance?” Then, investigate the alternatives he/she mentions.
- Do your own research. If you want to learn what Dr. Dean has to say about a situation, “Google” her name and the topic, e.g., “Dr. Carolyn Dean AFib.” If you want to learn about other alternatives, you can search on string like, “Alternative Health Treatments AFib.”
- Take your time. There are very few health care situations that don’t warrant waiting a day or two while you are doing your research.
When you start asking questions and finding your own answers, this is, as Dr. Dean says, “Taking Your Own Health Power Back,” .
Get Results. As I mentioned in the “For Beginner’s” section, getting good results is a conversation opener. If your health problems gradually subside and your wellness, energy, and joy increase, you won’t have to preach to anyone who will give you a moment to listen. People will ask you what you are doing. Wouldn’t the conversation starter, “Jill, your skin glows and your eyes are so clear. What are you doing?” be more productive than you telling Sally, “You need to try ReMag, and let me tell you….” as you load Sally with more information than she can possibly take in?
Be Patient. As you empower yourself with your own research and experimenting with Dr. Dean’s products, be patient. You will get the results you seek. But wellness is a journey not a destination.
So, be patient with your family, friends, and co-workers, too. They are watching you, even if they are comparing the “NOW you” to the “PAST you.” As they see you improve your life and health, they will ask you how you did this. They will ask you for advice. When this happens:
Offer Information Not Your Opinion. If you offer your opinion, then you are inviting your loved one to shoot you down. After all, they knew you when you had a pimple on the end of your nose. Unfortunately, your opinion doesn’t hold much importance to the people you know.
The solution to this challenge is to offer information. If you’ve read information that helped you along the way, send a link to that information in response to a loved one’s question. If you’ve watched a YouTube or listened to an audio, give them the link and tell them that the information helped you make an informed decision. You can even say something like, “I really liked and got a lot out of this video.”
After your loved one has read, listened to, or watched, don’t ask them if they liked the information. If you want to start a conversation, ask them what they liked about the information or what made the greatest impression on them. These are both good conversation starters. In the alternative, you can be patient and wait for them to ask you questions, if they have any.
Offer Additions, Not Changes. The biggest fear people have is a fear of change. So, anyone you are trying to help is going to be afraid that you are going to make them stop doing what they are doing now – taking medication, using other supplements, eating junk, sitting instead of moving. So, if you want to be a successful health prophet, don’t ask them to change anything.
Instead, offer additions to them. Tell them they can and why they can take ReMag and keep using their medications/current supplements. Ask them if they would be willing to drink a glass of water with a pinch of sea salt in the morning in addition to their normal routine. Suggest they add Epsom salts and a drop or two of essential oil to their sit or foot bath. Ask them if they would be willing to add a green leafy veg to their quiche at lunch.
When people know you are not going to ask them to give anything up, they will relax more. The more relaxed someone is, the more willing they are to add healthier alternatives to their life.
For Advanced Readers
So far, we’ve discussed all the commonsense approaches for improving your outreach as a health prophet for family, friends, and co-workers. But what if your loved one wants to get their doctor’s permission before they make an addition? What if you want to share what you’ve found with your doctor? What is the best way to share with a doctor?
Give your doctor a copy of the 2017 Edition of The Magnesium Miracle. Since I am sure you have already read The Magnesium Miracle, I know you are aware that there are over 600 medical references mentioned in the book. Additionally, the forward was written by noted magnesium researchers, Drs. Bella and Burton Altura. Moreover, here are three credible professional testimonials, taken from the description of the book on Amazon:
Praise for The Magnesium Miracle
“Dr. Carolyn Dean has been light-years ahead of her time when it comes to the crucial mineral magnesium and its many lifesaving uses. Her work is a gift to humanity. I highly recommend it.”—Christiane Northrup, M.D.
“Throughout this volume and with utmost clarity, Dr. Carolyn Dean presents invaluable recommendations—based on the latest magnesium research. Virtually every American can benefit.”—Paul Pitchford, author of Healing with Whole Foods
“Dr. Carolyn Dean has the best credentials for bringing solutions to those suffering from the hidden magnesium disorders that affect most of us. This book needs to be read by anyone wishing to improve their quality of life.”—Stephen T. Sinatra, M.D., author of The Sinatra Solution: Metabolic Cardiology
Refer your doctor to ReSet’s Professional Department by clicking on this link: https://rnaresetpro.com/pages/refer-your-favorite-healthcare-practitioner. Your doctor will receive a sample of ReMag and Dr. Dean’s book, The 65 Health Conditions Related to Magnesium Deficiency. You will also receive an eBook for making this referral.
Send questions to Dr. Dean’s Customer Support Staff. If your doctor has questions you can’t answer by sending him/her a link to an article/recording in the archives, you send your question to email@example.com.
Continue Your Own Research. In order to have quality conversations with your doctor once they are in contact with RnA ReSet’s Professional Department, you will want to be as informed as you can be.
These are Dr. Dean’s archives. Each website has a powerful topical search tool so that you can read, listen, and view information that is relevant to your interest.
- https://drcarolyndeanlive.com(free books, emails, and audio recordings)
- https://drcarolyndean.com(written blog)
- https://blog.rnareset.com(tiered learning)
Here is what the screen at https://drcarolyndeanlive.com looks like after I’ve done a search for resources to research AFib:
I’ve given you practical approaches to becoming more respected as a health prophet for your family, friends, and co-workers. Additionally, I have shared with advanced readers some helpful hints on how to work with their doctors and Dr. Dean’s information and products.
But I also have to share that as my cousin did, your loved one may continue to reject your help. Dr. Dean told me a long time ago that once I’ve answered someone’s questions, it’s on them as to whether they research more or try the products. She calls this, “whosoever will.”
My mantra on this comes from the success coach that influenced my life the most, “Some will. Some won’t. So, what? Next.” As a prophet, it’s your joy to share the good news, without attachment to the results. And, in my book, giving with no expectation of receiving anything in return is one of the most sacred things one can do as a human being.